What I learned from my marriage

Well those that actually read this lol... I am officially divorced...yep its over... my short lived marriage is legally over.

 Never did I think my marriage wouldn’t even make it to 3 yrs.... Never did I think that I would be divorced at 26 I thought I would be a mom by now.... I thought we would be happy living in a home with the white picket fence...Those were my dreams and I was angry with Heavenly Father for a long time for it.

I prayed and Prayed that marrying Seth was the right thing and I know with all my heart and soul that he said Yes, marry this man. As I have pondered this so many times over and over again, I realize that I did get the Yes I had heard but never did he say Seth was going to be my husband forever and never did I ask that, never did Heavenly Father say that I would be a mother to Seth's kids here in this life. Never did he promise me a fairytale.

 What I have learned from my divorce, (I spent a lot of time thinking and pondering this...this blog as taken me months to write)

 1. Never settle for less then you deserve no matter what aspect that maybe.
 2. Be true to your heart, never let any one tell you your heart is wrong
 3. Be honest with yourself, never lie to yourself, don’t try convincing yourself that you should stay were you don’t want to be
 4. Being divorced doesn’t mean I failed my marriage
5. Be faithful in an relationships you are in, don’t cheat and don’t commit acts of lust
 6. No matter what others say, you have to make the decision to stay or leave
7. Abuse is never okay.. No matter if it is physical, verbal, and sexual its never okay no matter what the excuse is
 8. Know someone for longer than 4 months before you marry, I know everyone is so quick to get married these days but don’t rush it…take the time to really get to know that person
 9. Not all of it was bad there were good times and good memories and you are allowed to hold on to those
 10. Take your time to get over it; there is no time limit on how long it takes to get over a marriage take however long you need.
 11. Take advice from those who have been in your shoes.
 12. This is most important read your scriptures and listen to that still small voice, pray, pray a lot, it will help I promise.

 This list isn’t complete but its just a few things I have learned. This world is hard and we go through so many struggles, hardships, heartaches and lessons, all of which are learning experiences. Learn from them all. Look for the positive in all things that come your way. Keep your head up and try to not get discouraged. Keep your faith and let your light shine no one can put out your light but you. You are loved, wanted and needed.

 As always I am here for any of you.

 I know my divorce happened for a reason, I may not know that reason right now but I know that my life is in Heavenly Fathers hands. I trust him to lead me to where I belong. -KP